How To Use NLP Anchoring In Dating
(Anchoring Men Or Women So They Remember You)
One of the most common questions I've been asked over the years is how do I anchor women/men?
Everyone and their dog these days seems to have heard about this "thing called NLP"and "how you can make women feel great and do what you want" (this is the line I hear most often from people new into the speed seduction community).
The reality is;
YES OF COURSE YOU CAN MAKE WOMEN OR MEN FEEL GREAT.
And if you are a woman reading this, then it's true you can also make a guy feel madly attracted to you (in fact anchoring and a few things ALL men are conditioned to will make this even easier).
But let's get back on topic ...The interesting thing is most guys I've met who have studied speed seduction still think of anchoring as some kind of knee-touching eventand are far too obvious and clumsy when it comes to anchoring.
So how do you do it so that it is totally transparent and in the same time invisible?
That's a good question... so I'll answer by telling you a short story.
A while back I decided I wanted to meet someone hot and who I could be deeply attracted to on all levels. Like many things in life I knew that dating, like a good wine, isa numbers thing, you need to get your hitting average up, so I attended a speed dating event that a friend asked me to accompany him to.
Well when I say asked, it was more like begged and pleaded, but in a good way. And boy was I in for a wild time. If you have never been to a speed dating event then go get yourself booked in on one.
Simply put, these kind of situations are fantastic learning and practicing opportunities for mastering anchoring, getting skilled at connecting with women and generally having a fun time.
So here I was, in a chic purple coloured underground bar, it was like something from Fast and The Furious and there were 20 girls and guys all sitting down ready to start. Speed dating is where you have just 3 minutes to make an impression on the other person and get them to score you as "yes - I'd like to meet again".
My objective was simple, I had a very clear goal, which was
1. Make every woman I meet laugh and feel great
2. Have a great time and have fun
3. Get at least three dates from the night
Notice how my intention was clear, and I started by focusing on how I was going to make the other person feel great first.
Most guys when they try to make women feel good or anchor them start by focusing on themselves first and making things deadly serious.
So before I tell you what I did, let me tell you how I got on...
90 minutes later, 19 out of 20 women I met reciprocated "YES" that they want to go on a next date. I spent the next several weeks dating each of the woman I met.
So what did I do to get this result? Simple - I did three simple processes you can use today to start creating a similar result for yourself.
THESE THREE POWERFUL PROCESSES ARE:
1) I lifted MY energy, so that every woman I meet instantly had to follow and in doing so began to "feel differently"
Lifting your energy is key if you want to be more attractive to anyone.
Study after study shows that most people are leading lives of "quiet boredom or desperation".
Generally people (men and women included) are bored and are looking for someone or something that has real energy and passion in their life (BTW passion is infectious and highly magnetizing)
2) I evoked powerful states of fun, playfulness, desire and deep interest typically within the first minute.
When you know how to elicit states well then you by default are good at three things a)noticing what is going on in front of you b) being flexible to adjust your own behavior c) and controlling your output (i.e. your body language, voice and tone)
So all I needed to do was pay attention and quickly calibrate to the attributes of the person in front of me and then adjust my response.
For example, there was one woman there who was a doctor but exuded a very authoritarian body language and three guys that sat down with her told me at the interval they felt like they were in surgery being examined!
And they all told me to be careful when I sat with her .. this made me even more determined to break her state and to get her to laugh which I did. How?
I told her a story about some people being uptight and not feeling that freedom to let their hair down and get comfortable amongst friends they haven't met yet but would like to ...
... and instantly her state changed as did her body language and she switched from being reserved and cold, leaning back and holding the scoring card to warm and leaningin and now giving me a soft warm smile.
At a different table I came across this woman who was clearly highly nervous (she wasrapidly chain smoking and knocking drinks back), so I opened up by joking if she hadany spare smokes for me, as I pretended to look around nervously. This instantly gother to laugh and we got on like a house on fire from there.
3) Once I was sure I had lifted the energy of the woman I met and had evoked a powerful state ... I anchored it!
Simply put anchoring people you are attracted to can be incredibly EASY. And if you are a woman reading this, it's not funny just how MANY ways a woman have of instantly firing off well worn anchors in Men to make them feel great and remember you all of the time.
Mostly it was auditory and visual. I didn't know these women and in a speed dating context touch ... of any kind is especially obvious ... unless of course you are using it as part of an intention
...So as the night ended I remembered thinking "this has been one of the most fun things I've done in a while" and I remembered thinking how I had achieved what I had set out to do. And the cool thing is, through changing people's states, for no other reason than I wanted to make people feel great, I met one of the craziest and most beautiful woman who I have been happily dating for several years now.
So go out today and have fun anchoring people you are attracted to. Making others feel great is fun, easy and extremely worthwhile.
We are just getting started. I've created a 127-page guide where I give you dozens of examples of anchoring in action in everyday contexts. You can download it here.
I've also got a bunch of resources I'm gonna send you, so keep an eye on your inbox. If you really like anchoring, there's some cool stuff coming.
Speak soon,
Tom
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