The 3 Unbreakable Laws Anchoring Anyone In Any Social Situation
Note: Men and women who are 'Social Magnets', who have the ability to consistently make other people feel good, are considered more attractive.
Why? Because they do certain things DIFFERENTLY than your average person.
Somehow by just being around them - other people can feel good for no APPARENT REASON, yet a skilled NLPer knows - exactly what is happening. Girls say these kinds of guys are "Addictive" to be around and Guys say Women who can do this are "Mind blowing".
It doesn't matter if we are talking about the bar or a boardroom.
Probably the greatest skill you can develop with NLP, is the ability to get on with other people so well that they love being around you, where you are like a massive magnet that they just feel great in your presence. Girls and guys love being around you and clients love doing business with you. This is what I call "Social Magnetics" and it's one of most powerful things someone skilled in the art of anchoring others elegantly can do.
There is no better place, to practice and master anchoring, than in social situations ....yet few people do.
Most people overcomplicate what anchoring is. The process is incredibly simple; it's how the brain and body wire things up.
Here are the 3 unbreakable LAWS to anchoring anyone.
Do these right, and you will be able to win friends and influence people and anchor incredibly easily.
Do these wrong, and you will struggle to anchor which limits your ability to influence others effectively.
Let's get into the first unbreakable law.
1. STATE TRUMPS STRATEGY
The single biggest thing you can do to increase your success when anchoring anyone, is ENSURING YOU'VE GOT A STATE WORTH ANCHORING before you try any fancy anchoring technique.
If you've tried to anchor someone in a social situation and it's fallen flat that's called ...A LEARNING EXPERIENCE .. (if your anchoring accidentally triggered off a hysterical emotional reaction that is called a self-created phobia installation .. lol.. but that story is for another day).
If you didn't get the result you wanted, learn from it and commit to doing it better next time.
So law number 1 is make sure you've got a state in your recipient that is
A) STRONG enough and
B) worth anchoring.
2. YOU ARE NEVER USING ANCHORING IN ISOLATION
Remember, one of genuine SECRETS TO MASTERING NLP is that you are never using the tool set in isolation.
If you have had prior experience of NLP, you've probably learned about certain models, such as the Meta Model, Sleight of Mouth, Submodalities and Meta Programs. Many people think of these are separate and disconnected.
However, the entire technology, all the so called domains of NLP, including anchoring, are deeply interconnected and related.
In terms of anchoring, it is would be foolish to think you could pluck the process of anchoring out of the the rest of the ongoing communication that is occurring.
You are anchoring assumedly has a purpose?
So when one is anchoring you should have a GOAL in mind. Anchoring then can become PART of an overall process that you are working toward.
If your goal is to win friends and influence people, there's no point anchoring the state of boredom; when you can anchor the state of curiosity, fascination, and creativity. These kinds of states are far more likely to attract people to want to be around you.
Remember that.
So Law number 2 is have a clear goal in mind, have the awareness to think about how does what you're doing fits into the bigger picture or goal you are working towards.
Finally, the 3rd unbreakable law that most people get wrong about anchoring is...
3. ANCHORING IS ABOUT THEM, NOT YOU...
Your attention needs to be focused entirely on the person you are looking to anchor.
Why is this important?
The moment any "anchor" is established, it will be happening in their neurology, not yours.
So keep your ATTENTION OUTWARD.
If you're looking to win friends and influence people, pay exquisite attention to how they are responding in the moment. When you become really skilled at anchoring, you can even borrow someone else's existing anchors and use that response to influence them... covertly.
This is when anchoring becomes extremely powerful.
So to recap the three unbreakable laws to anchoring anyone in any social situation are:
1) STATE TRUMPS STRATEGY
2) YOU ARE NEVER USING ANCHORING IN ISOLATION
3) ANCHORING IS ABOUT THEM, NOT YOU...
So keep your attention outward.
Break these laws at your peril.
If you have no State you have nothing to anchor.
If you don't have a clear goal in mind AND you won't know WHAT STATES you want to elicit AND if you forget that anchoring is all about them and what their nervous system is doing... then you are going to miss the opportunity to set perfect anchor.
Once you begin to apply these 3 unbreakable laws, you will find your ability to win over people, to influence people, to connect, at a level and a way that you've not enjoyed before, becomes possible.
I've got to help you see how powerful and useful anchoring can be, and how to begin to apply this in your own life.
We are just getting started. I've created a 127-page guide where I give you dozens of examples of anchoring in action in everyday contexts. You can download it here.
I've also got a bunch of resources I'm gonna send you, so keep an eye on your inbox. If you really like anchoring, there's some cool stuff coming.
Speak soon,
Tom
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