The 2 Of The Biggest Secrets To NLP Anchoring
If you have clicked on this page, chances are you already know what NLP anchoring is. If you don't check out this video which shows you anchoring in action.
Anchoring is an incredibly powerful communication tool that you can use to make yourself dramatically more influential and effective in interacting and working with other people.
Too many NLPers over complicate what is a simple thing anchoring is, and how easy it can be to learn with the right instruction.
Most people who teach anchoring teach you to "look for the peak" of a state and advise anchor at the TOP.
So how do you know you've reached the peak?
The person going through the experience doesn't even know if they are at the top before it happens.
But what they all miss are these 2 of the biggest secrets in NLP anchoring. The first is...
SO HERE ARE TWO OF THE BIG SECRETS TO NLP ANCHORING...
1. Anchoring is NOT what you do to someone!
It is NOT the TECHNIQUE nor is it all about "going first" (although that is important) rather...
ANCHORING IS ALL ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS INSIDE THE MIND/BODY of the RECEIVER of your communication at the PRECISE MOMENT, the very INSTANT you do SOMETHING UNIQUE AND they are in a SPECIFIC STATE.
That is where the real magic occurs, not in something you "DO" to someone. But what is going on in them, the moment you establish your anchor.
You see, Anchoring happens in an INSTANT - it's that quick when you know how!
From then on, whenever you do X (for example touch them in a specific way or use ascertain look or voice tone, the receiver's neurology will respond by doing Y (experience the state response and anything else linked with it.)
Whether you are trying to anchor a friend, person you are attracted to, a colleague,client or child the success or so called "failure" to anchor is all about what happens inside the mind/body of the receiver of your communication at a particular moment that you have them in a STRONG STATE.
If you "fail" to anchor it is almost certainly for one of only a handful of reasons and most of them have very little to do with blindly following the technique. Once you are aware of these reasons you can easily overcome them and become very skillful in a short period of time. And that is just the beginning of what how you can then use anchoring to get all kinds of incredible results.
When you realize that Anchoring is something that happens INSIDE the mind/body ofthe receiver of your communication and in an INSTANT, and it is not something you"do" to someone you can quickly see how easy anchors can be "set" and how they are occurring ALL the time, both for you, and the people you would like to be more effective and influential with.
Pretty powerful, right?
THE SECOND BIG SECRET TO ANCHORING EFFECTIVELY:
Is really a shift in your mindset...
2. When you anchor someone, what you are doing is training their neurology to create a new link "when this happens ... that occurs" or "when this happens ... do that".
I'll repeat that again, because it's SO IMPORTANT for you to get.
When you anchor you are TRAINING SOMEONE'S NEUROLOGY to link up" when this happens ... that occurs" or "when this happens ... do that".
The brain can learn this process super quick.
Got it?
You'll see examples of this in your everyday life. For example, when I tilt my head slightly down and at an angle and look into my partner's eyes and say in a warm slowvoice "come here darling" she'll instantly smile and feel really good inside.
It takes just a second to do. Yet the effect is near instantaneous AND repeatable.
You can think of examples in your own life where you may have anchors that elicit both positive and negative emotional responses.
Imagine if you could INTENTIONALLY and SKILLFULLY ANCHOR anyone in the areas of your life that matter most, how useful would that be?
- Who would you want to anchor first?
- What states would you like to be able to elicit and trigger in others?
- How quickly would you like to learn them?
We are just getting started. I've created a 127-page guide where I give you dozens of examples of anchoring in action in everyday contexts. You can download it here.
I've also got a bunch of resources I'm gonna send you, so keep an eye on your inbox. If you really like anchoring, there's some cool stuff coming.
Speak soon,
Tom
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